Managing Grief

Understanding Grief: A Path to Healing

Grief is a deeply personal experience, and no two people grieve in exactly the same way. It’s not just something we experience after the loss of a loved one, but a response to any significant change or loss in our lives. It could be the end of a relationship, a career shift, or even moving away from a familiar place. And because grief is unique to each of us, how we process and manage it will vary. The important thing to remember is that it’s okay to grieve, and allowing yourself to feel those emotions is a critical step in healing.

Grief in Challenging Times

In today’s world, many of us are facing unprecedented challenges. With the ongoing economic uncertainty, job losses, and the rising cost of living, grief can manifest in different forms. Losing our job or worrying about how to pay the mortgage and feed our family brings its own weight of stress and sorrow. The sense of security and stability you once had may feel shattered, and it's natural to feel overwhelmed by the emotional toll of these circumstances. In these moments, grief can feel particularly heavy, but the strategy of allowing ourselves to feel the emotions and working through them can still apply.

When you're caught in the whirlwind of financial worries and uncertainty, try to take a moment to pause and acknowledge the grief of lost security or direction. Hold that feeling, sit with it, and allow yourself to ask, "Could I let this go, even if just for now?" You may not be able to change the external situation immediately, but this process can help you clear your mind enough to refocus on what steps you can take in the present moment.

Grief Strikes at Unexpected Times

Grief doesn’t always follow a predictable timeline. It can arise suddenly, catching you off guard in moments you least expect—a song on the radio, a scent in the air, or a quiet moment of reflection can bring it rushing back. When those moments come, rather than pushing them away, try holding the grief in your heart. Give yourself a few moments to sit with it.

The Power of Allowing Yourself to Feel

The paradox of grief is that the more we allow ourselves to feel it, the more manageable it becomes over time. Denying or suppressing grief can make it linger, but when we welcome the feeling, even just for a few minutes, we begin to understand that it’s a part of the healing process.

After the allowing part ask yourself: “Could I let this feeling go? Would I? When?" This mindful approach to grief, acknowledging the emotion and then choosing when to release it, can help in gradually easing the intensity. It doesn't mean you're "over" your grief—rather, you're learning to navigate it with more awareness and compassion for yourself.

Rebalancing After Grief

After the wave of grief passes, it can be helpful to shift your focus to how you want to feel moving forward. A simple but powerful question to ask yourself is, "How do I want to feel?" By holding that thought and embracing the desired feeling for as long as possible, you're giving yourself the opportunity to rebalance emotionally. Over time, this process can help you regain a sense of peace and calm, even in the face of ongoing grief.

Summary

Grief doesn’t have a set timeline, and it can resurface in unexpected ways. However, when we allow ourselves to feel it fully, ask the right questions, and gradually release the pain, the heaviness of grief can begin to lessen. Remember, it’s not about rushing the process but rather about honouring your emotions as they come and giving yourself the space to heal.

This journey, though personal, can lead to moments of clarity and calm. By choosing how we want to feel after each moment of grief, we invite balance back into our lives—one step at a time.

Support

If you’re finding it difficult to navigate your own grief, or if you need support in working through these emotions, please reach out to me. Together, we can explore ways to lessen the suffering and help you find your balance again.

Dr. Joe. Dispenza’s Advanced Week-long Retreat - Sunshine Coast, Australia

Having waited for almost 3 years to have a chance at securing both the funds and a ticket, I was ready and waiting for the opening of the event, so that I could purchase a highly sought-after ticket to the Sunshine Coast, Australia event. I knew that there would be thousands of people trying to get a ticket, but I also “knew” that I would get one.

Feeling so confident that I could secure a ticket I had even booked my flights to Brisbane a couple of months before the tickets were going on sale in anticipation of finally being there and attending an advanced retreat.

Hallelujah !

After experiencing a few adrenaline-fueled minutes, and completing all the forms as quickly as I could, I finally managed to secure one of the elusive 1200 tickets that sold out in less than 7 minutes. Dr. Joe is on the superstar level of people wanting to learn from him.

I flew over to Brisbane the day before the week-long registration opened to make sure that there were no travel disruptions that would interrupt my ability to attend the beginning of the event and there weren’t. I was very lucky.

I did a lot of Dr. Joe’s meditations, from the moment I arrived at the airport in Wellington and right through I arrived at the hotel on the Sunshine Coast. That included check-in, waiting, on the plane, and during the almost 3-hour shuttle ride.

The hotel was mostly good, although after checking out things didn’t go as smoothly as we expected, however, I remained patient and after 4 weeks, things were finally resolved. My advice, be careful what you pre-pay at the Novotel.

Early morning starts, late finishes and yet I had great sleep and felt refreshed. The meditations seemed to end as soon as they had begun. A very professional, and well-organised event, with an amazing Dr. Joe student volunteer army to help guide us to our seats and look after us when the need arised.

We are asked by Dr. Joe not to share very much about the event, so I will honour that request.

I would like to say - It was a wonderful, heart-opening week-long event, with amazing people, stories and organisation. I surprisingly met some Wellington locals, which was lovely, given how small the community is over here in New Zealand, some of us have reconnected since we are back and have been doing group walking meditations together most weekends.

Exciting news!

Update - May 2023

I loved it so much, that I managed to secure a ticket and booked my flights to go to the Advanced workshop in Vienna, Austria in August of this year. It will be a great way to practice some German too. Super Excited!! Only 4 weeks to go now.

Dr Joe Dispenza’s Auckland Progressive Workshop

I was very fortunate to attend the first Auckland Progressive Workshop with the world-famous and very charismatic Dr. Joe Dispenza.

The 2 1/2 day event based in Takapuna, on Auckland's North Shore, was incredible. Listening to Joe explain the neuroscience, the extensive research that he and his team of scientists have been undertaking, and hearing the large number of accounts the previous students who have trained with Joe have experienced while doing his meditations was mind-blowing.

In order to attend this Progressive workshop you have to do the Stage 1 online course called the Intensive Workshop, and then either attend or complete online the Progressive Workshop, before being able to take part in a profoundly life-changing 1 week advanced workshop somewhere in the world. His Auckland Progressive workshop sold out quickly, as did the Advanced workshop on the Gold Coast which he flew to directly after this event.

I am very keen to attend an Advanced Workshop, and I can highly recommend his work. It is engaging, mind-opening and life-changing.  I am very, very grateful.

There is so much magic and profound healing happening through consistent and powerful meditation.

If you aren't already meditating regularly, I recommend that you start today. Put your heart and soul into each practice. If you want your life to change for the better, decide right now to make a new habit, one that includes living in the 'NOW' more than in the past or future, with love and gratitude.

Turn your attention inwards through meditation, and on the journey you may just come out a new, less stressed, happier, and healthy you.

Watch this space as I continue on my journey with Dr Joe's meditations.

For more information about Joe's work please head over to  https://drjoedispenza.com/